Intro to wedding paper goods
stationery 101
When you start planning your wedding, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by all the details—especially when it comes to stationery. From save the dates to reception menus, many of these paper goods might be new to you, and that’s totally normal! With so many options, there’s confusion about what you need, when to send them, and how to tie everything together. But don't worry—I’m here to help guide you through each step, so you’ll feel confident about every piece of stationery for your big day! Let’s break down the essentials to make the process stress-free and enjoyable.
Save the Date cards are your guests’ first official introduction to your wedding day, and they serve an important purpose: giving your friends and family plenty of time to mark their calendars and make travel arrangements if needed. Typically sent 6-12 months before the wedding, save the dates are especially crucial for destination weddings, if you have guests traveling from out of town, or your wedding falls on a holiday weekend.
They’re simple and straightforward, usually including your names, wedding date, and location (city and state is enough at this stage). You can also hint at the overall theme or vibe of your wedding with the design, whether it’s elegant and formal or casual and fun. Think of them as a preview of the invitation to come, setting the tone while building excitement.
Save the Date Cards
01.
don't have to send to everyone
optional - you may not need them
can be more casual or informal
photo or non-photo card
send 6-12 months before wedding
only send these to people that you're 100% sure you'll invite to the wedding. You can always send an invitation later, but it's awkward to take back a save the date if anything changes.
Pro Tip:
The invitation suite is the centerpiece of your wedding stationery, setting the tone for your big day and providing guests with all the essential details. Typically mailed 8-12 weeks before the wedding, the invitation suite is comprehensive, giving your guests everything they need to know to attend your celebration. It generally includes the main invitation, RSVP card, and other inserts like reception details, or information about additional weekend events.
Invitation Suite
02.
don't forget about postage
many of the pieces are optional
preview of wedding style
include all essential details
send 8-12 weeks before wedding
don't forget to order extras
1. invitation
The invitation is the main component of your stationery suite. It contains the who, what, where, and when of the wedding. It is generally the largest piece.
2. reply card
Whether you opt for the traditional mail-in RSVP or provide an online option, this is how guests let you know if they’re attending. If you’re doing a mail-in card, your suite will include a self-addressed reply envelope.
3. envelopes
The return address is generally printed on the back flap of the mailing envelope. Use the host’s address; names are optional.
The guest’s mailing address is handwritten or printed on the front of the mailing envelope.
1, 2, 4, 5. inserts
Share details about the reception, your wedding website, or a schedule for the day. You can combine these into a larger "multi-purpose" insert or use separate cards for each.
3. other events
Use an insert to share information about other weekend events—like a welcome party or farewell brunch.
4. inner envelope
An inner envelope is an optional second envelope goes inside the mailing envelope and lists the names of everyone invite.
belly band
A thin piece of paper that's folded around the invitation. It's available plain or printed in your choice of paper color or translucent vellum. Pairs perfectly with a wax seal.
envelope liners
Placed on the inside of the envelope, this paper adds a pop of color and weight to the envelope.
Wax Seal
Traditionally used to hold the mailing envelope closed, these days wax seals can be found on a belly band, vellum wrap, an insert card, or right on the invitation.
vellum folders
Vellum adds a delicate, airy feel to your invitations and allows for creative layering, making your suite feel even more luxurious. You can leave the vellum blank or add custom printing like your monogram or a decorative element.
silk ribbon
Use ribbon in place of a belly band as a softer option to hold the pieces in your suite together.
table numbers
signage
ceremony programs
Often overlooked until the last minute, but still just as essential as your other wedding stationery, day of paper includes the widest variety of options.
From ceremony programs that guide guests through the day's events to menus, place cards, and signage that add style and organization to your reception, these pieces play an important role in creating a seamless, memorable experience for your guests.
Day of paper
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For an in depth look at the options, view the day of paper guide.
wedding day paper guide
bar menus
dinner menus
place cards
seating charts
schedule cards
favor tags
Thank You cards
& social stationery
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Last but not least, we can't forget about thank you cards. Whether you're looking for a traditional and timeless design you can use for years to come, or something special for wedding gifts (maybe featuring your photos), thank you cards are a must-have.
If you'd like to show off your new last name, or simply want some pretty paper to use long after the wedding, note cards and social stationery are also available.
Now that you know a little more about the different pieces available, if you need to change any pieces in your order, please email me at sarah@banterandcharm.com.
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